tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1855199626103323785.post1839882141152997739..comments2023-07-07T03:56:01.092-07:00Comments on The Barefoot Doctoral: Commitment deviceBarefoot Doctoralhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03116876526923906034noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1855199626103323785.post-4583328850656992692012-05-10T08:39:41.180-07:002012-05-10T08:39:41.180-07:00I think eventually you'll be able to find jobs...I think eventually you'll be able to find jobs near each other. It's frustrating now to be constantly searching, but I think you'll manage to get there. (And maybe it will even be at the university near me, which would be super exciting!)<br /><br />You make a very good point about sacrifice- if you sacrifice too much, you have nothing to bring to your family, because you've given up too much of yourself. Partner, Epsilon, and especially you, deserve much better than that.Agneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11523545859293442992noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1855199626103323785.post-61944985557077513402012-05-08T14:01:18.029-07:002012-05-08T14:01:18.029-07:00Interesting... I also got married in order to nego...Interesting... I also got married in order to negotiate the two-body problem. It did have the additional benefit that the celebration was a lot of fun and a good excuse to reconnect with some lost friends. <br /><br />But back to the post, you do what you feel is the best for you and your family at the given time. Epsilon needs happy parents and you are doing what is best to be happy!mathgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09641041257943155537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1855199626103323785.post-23817362878138472672012-05-08T10:28:37.825-07:002012-05-08T10:28:37.825-07:00There are many reasons I haven't married. Curr...There are many reasons I haven't married. Currently, too many of my friends/family members can't marry, even if they wanted to (and many do). Like you, we don't need the marriage license to confirm our commitment. Unfortunately for me, a marriage ceremony cannot ever be just a sweet ceremony indicating our mutual love for each other, and our community's support for us. There are too many strings attached to marriage that I don't want to get entangled with. There's too much inequality between "Husband" and "Wife" that I do not want to enter into.Barefoot Doctoralhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03116876526923906034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1855199626103323785.post-83440829389956196192012-05-08T09:57:25.121-07:002012-05-08T09:57:25.121-07:00I did not realize you two weren't formally mar...I did not realize you two weren't formally married. I have to confess, part of the reason I married my spouse, since I didn't really need a marriage license to confirm our commitment, was for negotiating two-body problems down the road (which as you mention, might be trickier if not technically married). May I ask why you two haven't married?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com